24. Throw it away

A lady professor, after hearing Luang Pu give a talk on Dhamma practice, asked him the proper way to “wear suffering” [the Thai idiom for observing a period of mourning]. She continued, “These days, people don’t wear suffering in the correct way or in line with a common pattern, even though King Rama VI established a good standard in the time of his reign. When a member of your immediate family or a senior member of your extended family died, the pattern was to wear suffering for seven days, 50 days, or 100 days. But nowadays people don’t follow any pattern. So I’d like to ask you: What is the correct way to wear suffering?”

Luang Pu answered,